Introverts as a disappointment?

When you hear the word “introverts”, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? Someone who is shy? Someone who doesn’t talk much? Someone who has a very small comfort zone? We tend to assume that introverts are those people who don’t like people.

What if I tell you all that I am an introvert at heart too. Will you believe me? Chances are that you will not, Haha.

Well, there exists a very small yet big difference between extroverts and introverts. Extroverts are those people who recharge themselves by being with people and introverts are those people who recharge themselves with some alone and ‘me’ time. That is the basic difference between the two.

And I am somewhere in between. I am an “ambivert”. (Next post)

Focusing this post just on introverts, I would like to point out that introverts hold the real power in this world where people cannot stop talking and judging mindlessly. So when next time, people refer to you as an introvert… be proud. *winks*

I often see people mocking introverts for being introverts, forcing them to just magically convert themselves into extroverts, lol.

“Oh! you’re an introvert? How disappointing.” “Speak up. Be more assertive. Don’t take things so seriously. Get over your shyness. Come out of your shell.”

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I just like to associate black and white with introverts because as black and white as they seem.. they are blooming with bright colors.

I don’t get what is so disappointing in being an introvert. Ever tried knowing and exploring them instead of judging them for the way they are? Ever tried understanding the mystical ways in which their mind functions? And most importantly… ever tried getting into a real conversation with them? 

Yes! Extroverts are generally associated with being the energy of a gathering, but hey! introverts are not ordinary people, they leave their mark in their own unique ways and no one can avoid their presence and even their absence. 

Introverts know what peace and serenity are. They are intellectual and more connected to what they feel. They are empathetic and are the best comforters. They don’t avoid the complexities of this universe. They are strong enough to be themselves in this world which expects everyone to be PERFECT and this is exactly what makes them PERFECT. They value quality over quantity of people whom they call friends. They know the difference between socializing and having people to call friends. They know what dark is like and so they try to be the light in everyone else’s life and I guess that is a strength which many seem to lack.

Everyone knows who Barack Obama is. Right? A great and a loved leader. But what many don’t know is that he is also an introvert. Shocking, much?

Read the following and know how and why being introverted is actually okay  –

1. You find small talks complex and deep conversations are easy for you instead – You are of the opinion that small talk creates a barrier between people. You get anxious when it comes to small talk because you always try to connect with people. You find idle chatter as a source of annoyance. Small talks basically seem senseless to you.

2. You go to parties but not to meet people – If you’re an introvert, you may sometimes enjoy going to parties, but chances are, you’re not going because you’re excited to meet new people. At a party, most introverts would rather spend time with people they already know and feel comfortable around. If you happen to meet a new person that you connect with, great — but meeting people is rarely the goal.

 

3. You’ve been called “too intense.” – Do you have a liking for philosophical and diplomatic conversations and a love for thought-provoking books and movies? Well… same pinch. We like to jump into the deep end. 😉

4. You’re easily distracted. – There is two kind of people – one who gets bored quickly when they have not enough to do and one who gets overwhelmed in environments with an excess of stimulations and so they prefer unstimulating environments.

5. Alone time is always a yes yes! – One of the most fundamental characteristics of introverts is that they need time alone to recharge their batteries. Whereas an extrovert might get bored or antsy spending a day at home alone with tea and a good novel, this sort of ‘me’ time feels necessary and satisfying to an introvert.

6. You notice details that others don’t. – Introverts often have a keen eye for detail, noticing things that may escape others around them.

7. You have a constantly running inner monologue. – Your inner voice is always talking to you.

8. Are you an “old soul”? – Since introverts observe a lot, take in information and think before speaking –  they are often seen as wise people.

9. Um, do you love to read and write or paint? – Introverts are often better at communicating in writing than in person and many are drawn to solitary and creative hobbies like writing, painting etc. (Yes, I am taking my example here, haha) Many introverts are creatively charged when they have time to be alone with their thoughts.

10. You alternate between phases of work and solitude and periods of social activity. – Introverts can move around their introverted “set point” which determines how they need to balance solitude with social activity. But when they move too much — possibly by over-exerting themselves with too much socializing and being busy — they get stressed and need to come back to themselves. They try to balance their periods of heightened social activity and period of inwardness and solitude.

 

According to me…at least a little introvert-ism should exist in all of us. I guess that would make us more humane and less inhumane which we all are slowly and gradually becoming.

Introverts are not a disappointment afterall. Eh? 😉

-Happy introverting. Love to all. Until next time. Ciaaaoo!

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